Choices

Awhile back, a friend recommended a book called Parenting With Love and Logic Teaching Children Responsibility by Foster W Cline and Jim Fay. It’s recommended for teachers as well. It emphasizes giving kids choices to keep them from having tantrums or getting into a battle with them over things like leaving someone’s house, eating veggies, getting dressed, etc. I don’t agree with this idea, especially after re-reading Shepherding a Child’s Heart on this same matter.

Tedd Tripp says, “… … I observe that most parents do not understand the appropriateness and necessity of being in charge in their child’s life. Rather, parents take the role of adviser. Few are willing to say, for instance, “I have prepared oatmeal for your breakfast. It’s a good, nutritious food and I want you to eat it. Maybe other mornings we will have something you like better." Many are saying, “What do you want for breakfast? You don’t want the oatmeal I have prepared; would you like something else?”…. The child is learning that he is the valid decision maker. The parent only suggests the options. (p, 32)

We must be the decision makers and in turn, our children will “learn to be wise decision makers by learning from you.” (p33) This was a call for me to take more of a deliberate stand on being in charge, more confident in my decision making, and more consistent in my actions. Of course, this confidence has to come from God. I can’t do it without Him. I know you will agree!
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